Friday, August 12, 2011
Overstaying their welcome..
So you invited a girlfriend over this morning for coffee. You've had a lovely time catching up but a quick cup of coffee has turned into a 3 hour gab fest. You have things to do and need to get started with your day. What do you do??
We are all busy. Yes it's true. We all have things to do and people to see. Sometimes, we are so busy that we just don't have time to hang out any longer than a few minutes.
So what do you do when you need to get some things done, but a friend wants a larger than normal piece of your time? If you follow these guidelines, you are sure to get what you need, without hurting anyone's feelings. Honesty is the best policy, so here we go!
1. Start with a compliment. A heartfelt compliment will make even the worst news a little bit more bearable. Let her know that you enjoy her company and look forward to spending time with her. A spoon-full of sugar if you want to call it that.
2. Explain your issue. Let her know what is going on in your life, but make it short and sweet. A little detail will let her know that you aren't making things up to get her out of your hair (or are you??). Explain that you are running late and must start getting things done or you'll have a very angry hubby later.
3. Make a Plan. This will let her know that you really are interested in spending time with her. Maybe Monday at that new coffee place you've been dying to try? (Hey, write it down so you don't forget, busy bee!) That way, she knows that you value her friendship and are making a genuine effort to maintain it. You also, hopefully, won't get stuck with unannounced visits.
It's an awkward situation to be sure, but when handled properly and politely, everyone gets what they need with no loss of friendship.
P.S. If you have an awkward situation you just can't figure out the solution to, feel free to send me an email or leave a comment!