Above is the proper way to set a table for a casual meal.
Of course, we don't have time for this everyday with kids running around and jobs. It is a good thing to know for the next time you have your in-laws over for supper. Not to mention the fact that it's pretty!
So you invited a girlfriend over this morning for coffee. You've had a lovely time catching up but a quick cup of coffee has turned into a 3 hour gab fest. You have things to do and need to get started with your day. What do you do??
We are all busy. Yes it's true. We all have things to do and people to see. Sometimes, we are so busy that we just don't have time to hang out any longer than a few minutes.
So what do you do when you need to get some things done, but a friend wants a larger than normal piece of your time? If you follow these guidelines, you are sure to get what you need, without hurting anyone's feelings. Honesty is the best policy, so here we go!
1. Start with a compliment. A heartfelt compliment will make even the worst news a little bit more bearable. Let her know that you enjoy her company and look forward to spending time with her. A spoon-full of sugar if you want to call it that.
2. Explain your issue. Let her know what is going on in your life, but make it short and sweet. A little detail will let her know that you aren't making things up to get her out of your hair (or are you??). Explain that you are running late and must start getting things done or you'll have a very angry hubby later.
3. Make a Plan. This will let her know that you really are interested in spending time with her. Maybe Monday at that new coffee place you've been dying to try? (Hey, write it down so you don't forget, busy bee!) That way, she knows that you value her friendship and are making a genuine effort to maintain it. You also, hopefully, won't get stuck with unannounced visits.
It's an awkward situation to be sure, but when handled properly and politely, everyone gets what they need with no loss of friendship.
P.S. If you have an awkward situation you just can't figure out the solution to, feel free to send me an email or leave a comment!
OK kids, get ready for a quick tip on things not to ask in public...proceeded by the situation that inspired this post.
So yesterday, we were having a nice, quiet family meal at the local burger joint. You know. The one with Shakes and Steakburgers. But I digress.
Into the booth behind us files a man and his two children, both quite young (the children). The waitress, again quite young, comes to take their order and realizes she knows them. Note: I promise I wasn't eavesdropping. This girl's voice carried. Bonus: If you are going to be that loud in public, you're fair game honey!
So she proceeds to ask them a slew of questions. Normal questions you would ask of someone you went to church with or worked with before. Uninterested, I go back to my cookie dough milkshake. (Yum!)
Another lull in conversation hits at our table and I hear the waitress again. This time, I severely wish I hadn't. In front of God and everyone (not to mention his kids) the waitress asks the man "Are you still married?".
I wish you had been there to see my reaction. Or maybe not as I'm told my "looks can kill", I guess I display a little too much with my emotions. I think I might have a french fry in my lung too. Not pretty. It took every bit of training in me not to say something to her. I decided not to embarrass him any further. I can only imagine the man's reaction as I was looking at the back of his head and could see his tension from behind.
Seriously? I hope we all understand that a person's marital status is not an appropriate topic of conversation in public. Let alone in front of the kids! If you don't know this, let my experience be an oh-so-sweet warning... this is a No-No! Keep those topics private, if even discussed at all.
Has anyone ever asked you something inappropriate in public? I hope not, but if so... share it here!